
So you’re about to depart on a
grand adventure - whether it’s studying abroad, working abroad, backpacking
through Europe, moving to the far-off land in which you’ve always dreamed of
living - and as the countdown shrivels away, your panic grows at a
frighteningly rapid pace. You have been planning this trip for months, maybe
even years, and the anticipation has brought nothing but sheer excitement. But
now that your departure date is visible on the calendar and the reality is setting
in, all you can think about is what creative ways you can come up with to get
out of the trip altogether. How will you pack for months or years abroad in the
humorously limited baggage allowance offered by your airline? How will you
function in a culture that doesn’t speak your language? How will you survive
without mommy and daddy and all of your childhood best friends by your side?
And for God’s sake, what will you do without the Super Bowl, country music, and
Thanksgiving!?
Before you start cancelling your
plans and coming up with detailed dead pet stories to give you an excuse to
stay home, take a deep breath and use the following tips to help keep your cool
until you hop the pond.
Remember that the anticipation is
the worst part. The days and weeks leading up to an extended trip
abroad are the most terrifying part of the whole experience. Because that is
when the doubts and what-ifs and
how-can-I-fit-everything-in-before-I-go-so-I-don’t-miss-home are all you have
left. You’ve booked your flights, applied for your visa, and done your
research. Don’t let the restlessness and fear of the unknown completely distort
your expectations. Once you arrive at your destination and realize that it’s
not so scary after all, the excitement will return, and you will be glad you
didn’t back out.
Be prepared. The best way
to reduce your fear of the unknown is to reduce the unknown. Do your research
about the place you’re headed to. Find out what American amenities will be
available and which ones you need to stock up on before you go. Learn a little
about the culture and climate and must-see destinations. Talk to anyone you
know that has been there. Make a packing list and gather all of your necessary
documents. Plan some excursions before you hit the jetway. The more prepared
you are, the less anxious you’ll feel.
Remember that keeping in touch
with family and friends is easier than you think. In today’s
technologically saturated world, keeping in touch with people around the globe
is easier than ever (as long as you can master the time change!). If you are
going to be away for more than a few weeks, you will want a way to easily
contact home. Most phone plans don’t include international service, so be sure
to bring a laptop or tablet with a webcam. If you don’t have one, it’s worth
the investment – many tablets are under a couple hundred dollars and will
improve your travel experience in countless ways! With Skype, FaceTime,
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, email, and many other social media
outlets at your fingertips, you’ll hardly feel like you’ll need to catch up
with anyone when you go back home. Set up some regular Skype dates with family,
and start a Facebook thread with your closest friends. You won’t miss a thing.
Know that you’ll probably be less
homesick than you think. If you have ever experienced a sensory
overload…welcome to your life abroad. You will be far too preoccupied with the
new landscape, climate, wildlife, language, and culture that you will hardly
have time to remember that you have a home to miss. Plus, if you stay connected
as mentioned above, you won’t yearn for the company of family and friends like
you might think you will. And if you make friends and invest yourself where you
are, you will start to build a sense of “home” abroad. You might be surprised
to find out that you feel most homesick when you hop on your flight home.
Be intentional about investing in
your new home and experiencing the culture. If you follow this rule, you
won’t have to worry about having a miserable experience. Even a “bad”
experience will be a good one. No travel experience is alike, and I know many
stories of life-changingly fantastic trips and plenty of not-so-awesome ones.
The key to a successful expedition is gaining something – cultural expertise,
checks on your bucket list, memories, friends, lessons learned, maturity…it’s
all valuable. The worst thing you could do is go home regretting a lonely
summer spent in front of your computer screen missing home. Staying connected
to home is important, but there is a necessary balance to fending off
homesickness and being present in your adventure.
Don’t let other people’s
reactions to your plans freak you out. If I had a nickel for every
flabbergasted reaction to my not-so-conventional response to the age-old
question of “What’s next?”…I could have paid for my travels a few times over by
now. I recently graduated college and just got married, and my husband and I
are moving to Taiwan for a year. Most people give responses like, “I could
never do that” or “You’re so brave!” The kind of responses that stir up the
fear in me and make my insides scream, “I’m not brave, I am terrified!” But
then every once in awhile, someone will admit, “I wish I would have done
something like that when I had the chance” or “I’m so jealous!” And that is
what is really behind most people’s reactions. They’re impressed and even a
little jealous of your courage, ambition, and the voyage that lies ahead. So
let the shocked reactions fuel your sense of adventure and give you an extra
boost of excitement!
You may feel like a wreck now, but know
that soon, the jumbled mess of emotions and fluttering butterflies that
currently lives at the bottom of your stomach will be a distant memory as you
snap a few pics of one of the Seven World Wonders that you’re really glad you
didn’t miss out on. So, if pre-departure panic is plaguing you, never fear. It
will all be worth it in the end!